Wilted Flowers Grow Beautifully Tour

I previously wrote a post, “God wants You:  Faith, Vision and Visuals”,on what creating vision boards mean to me.  There’s a spiritual journey that can be had in the process of creating vision boards and affirmation cards.  While creating goals and setting standards for you and your future are serious matters, creating vision boards with others makes a creative, fun, and inspiring atmosphere making the process not only beneficial for adults, but kids as well.  And so begins the “Wilted Flowers Grow Beautifully Tour”!

I, along with fellow iCare Global Team Members, Paris Harper and Tahlia Cummings decided to spread God’s messages of love to young ladies throughout our community.  It’s very important for us as women to understand our importance in God’s will.  He created us with purpose, as individuals, He has plans and desires for us to be prosperous in Him.  Therefore, we must understand His love for us, so that we can learn to love and respect ourselves.  We were blessed to experience our first vision board party with seven beautiful, smart, and creative young ladies.  In hopes of planting seeds of love, faith, and forgiveness, we allowed the girls to create topics that they wanted to discuss to encourage dialogue and to assist us on addressing life issues that the younger ladies have.

Also, we wanted to plant seeds of entrepreneurship within girls.  One of my most favorite awards show is Black Girls Rock, where women, young and old from all over the world, are recognized for being positive role models throughout communities everywhere. Listening to the stories of women awarded for community services, nonprofits, outreach, and many other different ways that they are affecting and changing their communities is so motivating and inspiring.  So we want to create an atmosphere for the ladies in our community that’s filled with faith, love, and motivation for them to become who God created them to be.

Here are a few of our blossoming flowers hard at work:

Picking out supplies

Picking out supplies

iCare Team Member, Talhia Cummings

iCare Team Member, Talhia Cummings

A few of the young ladies working on their boards

A few of the young ladies working on their boards

iCare Team Member, Paris Harper teaching class

iCare Team Member, Paris Harper teaching class

Paris’ message to the ladies:  “I want the girls to continue to meditate on the scripture, “Psalms 139:14, “We are fearfully and wonderfully made.”


Shurica sharing a part of her vision board

Shurica sharing a part of her vision board

VB Volunteer, Shontia Poyner creating visions

VB Volunteer, Tia Poyner creating visions

work in progress

work in progress

work in progress

work in progress

IMG_20140531_135509_758 Through Christ all things ARE possible

work in progress

work in progress

  • Sisters, Kennedy and Krystyon, both said they “….had a good time and wish it would come around again sooner!”
  • Mekayla Stokley said, “I really enjoyed the girls session.  We were able to express and elaborate our belief on the questions you asked us.  I enjoyed the vision board, it helped me see my life visually planned.  Thank you for getting the girls and I together to do this!  I wish you success on your future.”

Get group of your girlfriends or your daughters and their girlfriends and lets create vision together!

You can reach me at spoyner.icare@gmail.com or 252-548-2400.

Blessings of love and light to you!


God wants You: Faith, Vision, & Visuals!

“And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.  For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie:  though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry” – Habakkuk 2:2-3

I was shocked to learn how many people in my community had never heard of creating vision boards.  As far as I was concerned it’s been the latest craze for a few years now.  Maybe the craze has died down now, but vision boards have even gotten its 15 minutes of fame on Oprah as the O Dream Board.  Whether it’s called a vision board, life map, or an O Dream Board, I was excited to find that the idea of writing down your vision is also divine.

Habakkuk was a prophet in the Old Testament who had been praying to God about all the evil and destruction that was going on, and he felt like God was not answering his prayers or sticking up for the righteous.  It seemed as though the sinners were prevailing and were in control of the city, and he was desperately seeking answers from God.  It’s much like our world today, it seems like those who lie and cheat are the ones who get ahead, while the people who are trying to live righteously are struggling.  God assured Habakkuk that He knew what was going on in the city.  He told Habakkuk to, “Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables….” “…the just shall live by his faith.” (Habakkuk 2:2 &4) You see, God had a plan for His people, Habakkuk just needed to have faith and continue in his purpose. Habakkuk receives God’s assurance that the just will prevail and rejoices in the Lord.

God has a vision, a gift, a purpose for each of our lives.  No matter what is going on around us, no matter what other people are doing, no matter what the situation looks like, we are to look toward the vision God has given us, we are to continue to work towards living out our purpose, and in doing so we are living by faith.  God told Habakkuk to write it down and make it plain!  The Book of Romans Chapter 12 reminds us to renew our minds and use our faith as we work the gifts that have been given to us.  Philippians tells us to have the mind of Christ.  In Jeremiah Chapter 29 God tells Jeremiah that He has thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to an expected end.” And continues on in Chapter 33, God tells Jeremiah, “Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.”  You are not expected to already know what the vision is or what it is that you are supposed to be doing.  God wants us to call on Him, He will give us the vision and the answers that we need, we just have to step out on faith.

God shows no respect of person, the same assurance, vision, and gifts he had for the prophets in the Bible, he also has for us.  He has thoughts, vision, purpose that is specifically for you.  All we have to do is seek Him and He will give us the desires of our heart.  All you have to do is live by faith that He will do what He says He will do.

So we can start from where we are right now.  We don’t have to be well versed in the Bible or doing everything right, all we need is a heart to want to know God and fulfill His will. There are numerous tools that can be used to begin our journey transforming our minds, writing the vision, and working the purpose that God has for us.  I would like to begin to use the Vision Board and Affirmation Cards to set goals, keep God’s word at the forefront of our minds, and keep the vision visible.  Proverbs 16:3 states that we should, “Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.”  So even if you have no clue as to what your purpose is or what you should be doing commit to seeking His will through the many tools that are made available and He will impart His thoughts in us.  How awesome is that!  God wants a relationship with you and that relationship will empower every aspect of your life.

My vision board w/ room to add on

My vision board w/ room to add on

Step out on faith with me, write it down, and create visuals for the vision.

More than Self Love

I recently took some time away from life, to find myself, on a weekend trip to the beach.  I felt like I needed some time to figure out how to love myself, how to nurture myself, and for some mental, emotional, and spiritual healing.  Prior to deciding to take the trip I was hearing messages about the importance of self-love everywhere.  On tv, on the radio, a few blog posts, I had a couple of conversations with other women who were feeling a little lost within themselves; with all them involving self-love.  Usually when this happens, I feel like God is trying to get my attention.  He speaks to me through confirmations sometimes, I believe it’s how He gets my attention when I’m not listening.  I even found a necklace and pendant, while on the trip, with the words, “Love you” on one side and, “More” on the other side.  Surely this was a sign that I was on the right path to this whole self-love thing. Image  What I ended up learning was that first, I must understand God’s love for me to truly be able to love myself.  You see, every problem that we have, every emptiness that we feel, every time we feel lost and confused, there is only one solution:  God.  His peace, His love, His strength, His understanding, His mercy, the list is endless, He is the solution to all things.  It’s not that there won’t be a storm, it’s that there will be peace in the storm.

I believe that there is a dire need for the expression of God’s love.  Of course, we all know that God loves us and that He sent His Son to die for our sins, which is the ultimate sacrifice.  But it is so much deeper than just saying that to someone.  Love conquers all things and simply God is love.  We all have a God given gift and purpose over our life and the result is the way you express God’s love to yourself and everyone around you.  God commands that you love others as you love yourself, which means you are commanded to love yourself.  You must know how to love yourself before you can know how to love others.  You begin this journey by seeking God (Matthew 6:33) and developing a relationship with Him.  He sent His Son, Holy Spirit, and His word to assist us on our journey.Image

It seems knowing that God loves us should be elementary. That’s the first thing we learn, it’s the first thing we say when we’re reaching out to someone who may not know Him.  God loves you.  I grew up in church, my Mom and Dad both are ministers, at one point in time we spent more time in church than at home.  However, it never occurred to me to actually study God’s love for me.  It should be evident in the sacrificing of His Son.  Jesus’s love should be evident in the sacrificing of Himself.  Yet, still there is more to be found in His love.  He created you, individually, separate from anyone else, for a purpose.  Maybe the sacrifice gets lost in translation because He sacrificed for everyone; He died on the cross for all of our sins. Image  So one may say, “He didn’t do it just for me, He didn’t so that everyone would have a chance.  If I get lost in the shuffle of life, I won’t be missed.”  That is a lie that is so far from the truth, it could only be conjured by the devil to keep you in deceived.  If you knew who you are in Christ, you would be unstoppable.  You have the power to usher in the presence of God and change any atmosphere, any problem, and any situation.  Everything must conform to the will of God, and He has given you the power to cause manifestation here on Earth.  Every problem is to be brought under your subjection; “for whatever you bind on Earth is bound in heaven.” (Matthew 18:18).

You are here for a reason that not only affects you. Image  The power He has given you is not just for your problem or your situation.  The abundance and prosperity that He has promised you is not just for you.  It is through you that God can share His love to the world.  Your life is purposed, it is destined, and it is to be filled with the fruit of the Spirit.  What God placed you here to do, no one else can do.  You are special, you are unique, and YOU HAVE A PURPOSE to fulfill.  Let’s start our journey seeking God, seeking His kingdom, and learning His love for us, so that we can live a life of purpose.



Wilted Flowers Grow Beautifully

A co-worker of mine bought  beautiful hydrangea flowers with sky blue petals and placed it in her windowsill to brighten up her office.  It filled the room with an alluring aroma as it welcomed in spring.  With only the hope of developing a green thumb, I decided to help her take care of the flowers, only to come back after the weekend break to find the flowers limped over, drooping in defeat.  It had not even been a whole a week and we had killed the flowers.  Without any knowledge or special skills, I decided to water the plant.  When my co-worker returned I explained to her that the plant died from loneliness over the weekend, but I had still given it water with hope of reviving it.  I didn’t have very high hopes that the plant’s life would be restored, it looked as if it had taken its last breath.  But what did I know, my thumb had yet to turn green.  As soon as she rounded the corner into her office, she yelled my name out.  I walked into the office astounded to see the flowers standing fully bloomed in all their glory. It was unbelievable.  I had tried to bring dying plants back to life by watering them before, but without prevail.  These flowers came back to life within a few hours of me watering them.  Not only does water sustain their life, it restores their life.


I began to think about a little girl, around the age of 13 years old, who was a client in our office.  She had come into our office with her guardians to meet with her attorney.  While the little girl was in the conference room speaking with her attorney, I overheard her guardian speaking to another lady about how she no longer wanted to care for this little girl.  My heart broke for this little girl, her guardian was her grandmother.  I can’t imagine at any point in time of my life, no matter what the wrong I had done, my grandmother not wanting me.  And before I can completely give thought to my grandmother not wanting me, I have to digest my mother not wanting me.  There are many reasons that a parent would decide to relinquish their rights to their child, some of which are very valid; adoption is a wonderful option.  But no matter how good the reason maybe, at some point in time throughout that child’s life, that choice will affect them negatively.  It could cause them to feel unwanted, not good enough, undeserving, as if they were too flawed to be kept.  This is only an opinion I have derived from my own thoughts of how I would feel if my mother gave me away.  This is especially true because I attribute all things that are positive about myself with the presence of mother being in my life.  I wanted to grab this grandmother by her shoulders and scream, “YOUR GRANDAUGHTER NEEDS YOUR LOVE!”  I can only imagine what this little girl has gone through to cause her to act out the way that she has, yet even with my anger, I feel the lost for a grandmother who has a granddaughter so out of control she no longer wants to have her around.

I watched this little girl as she sat with her grandparents waiting for her attorney.  I listened to her as she respectively interacted with her grandparents.  I saw so much potential in this little girl, if only she could be placed in a nurturing environment.  If only she could know what it felt like to be loved.  If only she could be taught how much God loves her and that He created her for a purpose.  If only she knew where the passion to share her gift could take her in God’s kingdom.  If only she knew how precious her life is and how much God wants her and desires to fulfill her dreams.  If only she could be exposed to what it truly means to be loved by God, to be able to love herself, and feel the need to love others.  If only she knew that she does not have to be a victim of life’s circumstances.

There are so many girls in this word who have been broken, left without nurture, love, or support, who have been abused; their spirits and hearts have been broken.  Waves of unworthiness, thoughts of hopelessness, valleys of fear and depression, lost in an unknown wilderness of defeat.  If only they knew their lives have meaning, purpose, and that their Creator delights in their prosperity.

“Whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.” – John 4:14

Wilted Flowers

You still have a chance

to grow

An opportunity

to thrive

A purpose

to be alive

Wilted Flowers

Your beauty’s still within

It takes only a step

to begin

No one can reach your roots

but you

Wilted Flowers

There’s love for your soul

That will overcome your spirit

You’re a treasure to hold

Created in your Saviour’s mold

Wilted Flowers

You have a chance to grow

The Son still embraces You

Longing to give you light

He still desires for your delight

Your purpose is still given

You are still precious

in His sight

Wilted Flowers Do Grow Beautifully


“For with God, nothing shall be impossible” -Luke 1:37