Difficult people are people whose mere presence is problematic; their actions are burdensome; interaction with them can be challenging and demanding; their aura is troublesome and irritating; at their very best they are still formidable and or wearisome.
Have you ever known someone who, just the mention of their name, made your ears cringe? Seeing their vehicle parked outside of a place you have to enter, was enough to make you want to keep driving. Someone, whose face, literally makes the inside of your stomach turn. Difficult people. Those people are difficult for many different reasons. Pessimistic people are definitely thrown into the difficult people box. You know the ones who can find fault with a sunny day on the beach. The typical, glass half empty with stale water, kind of people. Then you have the difficult people who think they are above and beyond approach. They know everything, everyone else are idiots, and if they aren’t happy, no one will be happy. And there are the busy bodies! The people who just cannot stay out of everyone else’s business. They keep drama elevated, endorse rumors, cosign trouble, and are not satisfied until someone’s life has been turned upside down. The difficult people. What is the deal with these people?
There are books written, blog posts published, and motivational speeches given on how to handle these people. Advice is given from family and friends as they reach out to offer relief, but nothing changes the way your blood pressure rises at the thought of having to be around that difficult person. You’ve tried to ignore them; keep it strictly business and move on, that doesn’t work. You’ve tried feeling sorry for them, because only miserable people can cause others to be so miserable. But you can only feel sorry for them but for so long, before your sympathy turns to anger and disgust. You’ve prayed and binded that evil spirit that possess that person’s soul, but it seems to no avail; they’re still difficult. You’ve tried everything, short of attempting murder, but for this time in your life it seems as though you’re stuck with this particular difficult person. Maybe it’s a co work, supervisor, or boss; a teacher, principle, or instructor; a family member, acquaintance of your social group, or church member. They come into your life under various circumstances, with different titles, and with, what seems like, their own agendas. The difficult people. How do you deal with these people?
If you are one who believes that everything happens for a reason, then you must know this person is in your life for a reason. The difficult person, in all their exhaustingly painful glory, is in your life for a reason. There is a lesson to be learned. My mom says, “You need that person for something.” Perhaps they’ve been placed in your path to deter you from your purpose. It could be an experience to make you stronger. Perchance, it’s to make you grateful for the loving and kind people who do exist in your life. Maybe it’s to make you more aware and better prepared to deal with an experience that will occur later on in life. There isn’t a general statement that can be given to remedy you of the anguish you feel for a difficult person. It is an experience you must grow from along your journey. That may take you down a path that reveals that the difficult person is a reflection of you and who you could become.
“Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” – Romans 12:9; 17-18